Beletiaq sat neh...

Since Kekla and Bude kawin, there are 2 questions that we get asked almost everyday.

The first one is, “when are you planning to start work?”

Aiyoo people, I’ll be working for the next 40 years of my life insyaAllah..so what’s the rush? Let me live my life the way I like it.

And that question is usually followed by, “tak mengandung lagi ke?”

Kekla tak kesah pun sebenaqnya orang tanya benda benda ni. Tau, depa saja nak buat conversation, tak pun saja sebok, eh I mean, saja ambik berat hehe

Tapi yang Kekla paling tak tahan bila setengah orang tu try nak impose their beliefs on me.

“ Orang kata kalau before first pregnancy dah pakai family planning nanti susah dapat anak. Kalau lepas anak first xpa”

I wonder who this orang is. So Kekla akan Tanya balik “iya? Orang mana kata camtu?”

And depa jawap balik “orang laaaaa…orang…”

Hmmm....

or worse, they react macam ni

“Ish, tak elooookkk ambik pill ni. Macam tolak rezeki. Nanti nak mengandung Tuhan tak bagi dah, kena balasan.”

And Kekla akan jawap “iya? Sapa kata camtu?”

And depa jawap “alaa orang laaa kata… orang”

Aiyooo, can somebody please tell me who this encik Orang ni. Pandai sungguh dia berkata kata, satu Malaysia ikut cakap dia.

Kepada Encik Orang, Tuhan tu Maha Pemurah dan Pemberi Rahmat. Tuhan juga sangat memahami. Tuhan tak zalim, tak punish his servants tak pasai pasai.

Secondly, pakai family planning bukan ertinya tolak rezeki…ertinya orang tu praktikal.

Cuba bayangkan, if a mother is on call 3 kali times a week, that leaves her 4 nights to catch up with her sleep.

Kalau anak tengah menangis malam malam, do u think she would have the heart to ask her husband get up? She wants to be with her child, but she’s tired. Is that fair to her, her husband, or her child?

Abes tu kalau dia tak adil kat anak or suami dia cemana? Kena punish lagi?

Orang lain boleh, awat kita tak boleh? Hmm..tak betul ni..nanti kena punish

Adoi mak...Penat sungguh jadi isteri and emak camni..

Thirdly, kalau a couple tu cuba mengandung tapi x dapat..for all you know maybe dia ada penyakit ka..or just takdak rezeki. Buat pa nak pi pandai2 cakap tu la tolak rezeki. Saja nak bagi couple tu rasa guilty and blame themselves?

We shouldn’t live in this world thinking that buat ni dosa, kena hukum ni, buat tu dosa kena hukum tu.

Contraceptives ni ada cara yang halal, ada cara yang haram.Macam other things in life. Jadi kalau alim ulama dah cakap sesuatu cara tu halal, kenapa nak impose threat and insecurity kat orang lain?

Islam is beautiful, but (Malay?) people tend to stress on what we CAN’T do. Why don’t we enjoy the things that we CAN do instead.

It’ll make world a much better place, trust me.

Kekla